我不想自己的孩子考GEP
太辛苦了。
我也转一篇不是讲个例的
http://petunialee.blogspot.com/2016/10/gep-vs-mainstream-high-potential-kids.html?m=1
GEP vs Mainstream High Potential Kids
As the years go by, I get more and more GE and Hi-Potential students in my classes. This is not surprising given the emphasis on Higher Order Thinking. The GE and Hi-Po find this program fun instead of stressful. The GE and Hi-Po find it stimulating instead of demanding. In the Primary 4 2016 cohort, 25% of my students are GE. Another 25% of my students are clearly Hi-Potential. Given that GE and Hi-Po are together only about 2% of the general student population, these proportions are way over-represented.
Don't get me wrong. I don't administer IQ tests. My intake starts in P3, where no one has even been tested for GEP yet. At that point, there is no way to tell who is GE and Hi-Po. I enrol students on a First Come First Serve basis. It is still a mystery to me why I am getting so many GE and Hi-Po.
Increased interaction with such students have lead me to observe the following attitudinal damage sustained by GE students, which Hi-Potential students (who may have made it into the GE but refused to join OR who may have been almost GE) escape.
Lower Self-Expectations
The GE kids who join me in P3 invariably come with a great deal of enthusiasm and have high standards of themselves. They expect themselves to be the best in my class. Halfway through Primary 4, their attitudes change. They temper these expectations of themselves, telling themselves that it is enough to get by.
My guess is that within the GE programme, GE kids learn to temper their own expectations. Only the top of the top in the GE develops and maintains a winner's attitude. So far, I have had only ONE GE kid in this category. The rest of the GE kids learn to get by because it just is too hard to be at the top.
These GE children who have learnt to get by don't bat an eyelid when I tell them that an assignment is sub-par. After all, they just want to get by. Meanwhile, my mainstream hi-potential are surprised when they don't do well in my assignments and in the next assignment, they rectify the issues. Not surprisingly, by end of P4, some of my Hi-Po have outstripped the GEP in their progress with me. Since we archive every HW assignment in soft copy and we teach each child exactly to the child's own pace (yes, I know people think it is impossible but we do really teach each child to his/her own pace and I would not dare to lie because my students' parents who read my blog, would call me out), the difference in progress is very clear to us.
This attitude of merely expecting to get by, is not good.
My own 2 kids are NOT GE but they work for and expect to be top. When The Daughter tells us that she did not do well, what she really means is that she is not in the top 10 of the cohort. When The Son tells me that he did not do well, what he means is that he is not the top 5 in class.
Having these self-expectations mean that my kids try hard to be the best that they can be in everything that they do. They don't do things just to get by. They choose activities they love and work to win. They may not always win but that does not bother them because it does not bother me, but they clearly set high goals, instead of expecting to get by.
As such, The Son, despite NOT being GE and being known as one of the "dumb" ones in primary school, obtained a research internship in a research lab staffed by PhDs from all over the world. He is only 15. What happened to all the GE kids? Why didn't they get this choice opportunity? The Daughter, also not GE, obtained 8 A level distinctions and has a job offer before graduation, in an economy where graduates cannot find work.
It is often said that one's attitude in life determines one's altitude in life. No?
What you expect to achieve, you somehow do. I think it is tragic that the GEP kills high self-expectations in our GE kids. These are kids who came in P3 EXPECTING to win and ACTUALLY were winning. By the end of P4, there is a stark change in their attitudes, and their progress flags accordingly.
Tendency to Conserve Effort
There is so much happening in GEP. GE kids are normally REALLY good at some subjects and only above average in others. The GE teaches them at GE standard across all 4 subjects. The work is challenging and there is a lot of it to do. GE kids get tired by end of P4. Their enthusiasm for academic activities wane and they start asking, "Why should I work so hard?"
I don't blame them. I love blogging and am reasonably good at it, but if you made me do a LOT OF BLOGGING, I would also ask, "Why should I blog so hard?"
A Sense of Being Set Apart
By P5, the GE child (despite lowered self-expectations of his/her own performance) begins to develop a sense of being set apart. In our centre, we nip this attitude in the bud because our GE and Hi-po are groomed to lead the other kids. No one will willingly be influenced by you, if your attitude is, "I am set apart."
I kid you not. A P5 GEP said, when I told him that some of the easier questions in the PSLE exam required simplicity, "I am used to thinking through complex geometric puzzles. Don't expect me to think simply."
At that stage, 2 of my Hi-Po kids had already completed our module on Expository Writing in anticipation of Secondary 1 demands in Literature, History and Geography. This GEP had not even started the module. Yet, he felt himself set apart and made it clear to us that he was.
This attitude of Us and Them rives fractures in teams when I make a GE kid a group leader. Happily enough, because our classes operate on teamwork, we have slowly and successfully been able to re-mould this attitude.
I worry for this boy, you know. What will working life be like for him?
Case Study 1
In a previous cohort, I had a GE kid who hated to be in GEP. He was so miserable that his doting mother pulled him out and placed him in another school with a class meant for GEP eligible kids who had refused to join the GEP. He was rather good in English and being none too interested, he was happy to be simply rather good. With no effort at all, an "A" was in the pocket. The A*, no way. However, with the extra time freed up (since the mainstream syllabus was so easy) he had time to self-direct himself into winning...
- Math Olympiads (in P4, he competed with P5 kids and won)
- Science Olympiads
- Chess competitions
- Fencing competitions
... and he spent hours amusing himself with Strategy Games. He eventually received 13 DSA offers.
Contrast this with another GEP in a current cohort, who stayed in the program and had to work to reach GEP standards in all 4 subjects. He agreed to Advanced Science and Advanced Math. He was stretched every which way and only managed a single bronze at one Math Olympiad. Despite being still IN the GEP, I am not sure he will get any DSA.
Case Study 2
These are 2 brothers. The older brother qualified for and accepted to go into GEP. By Secondary 3, his attitude to work could only be summed up thus, "Mom, I intend to put in just enough effort to pass. Don't worry. I'll manage." Meanwhile, his school had sent an ultimatum, "Pass Math by the end of the year or you will be dropped into the Express stream." I coached the Mother over a period of a few months on email and phone. By the end of the year, he scored 98% for Math. He was clearly highly intelligent.
However, afterwards, he again plodded along lacklustrely. The crisis was over. He could stay in IP and he was happy to just get by.
After seeing the attitudinal damage done to her elder son, the 2nd son was not allowed to go into GEP, despite qualifying. He stayed in his school and was placed in a class for kids who rejected their GEP places. There, he had time to excel at golf, at drawing and he had time to write novels, plays and haikus. If Petunia had competed with him to get into SOTA by strength of writing portfolio alone, I would have lost. He is today in HCI and has been assigned a mentor to further groom him in Creative Writing.
Again, I doubt his current mentor would mentor me.
Damage Is Attitudinal
I teach children of every calibre. Our classes are designed such that mixed ability is USED and EXPLOITED for overall educational value. We have a system where we are able to teach the child to his/her own pace academically (whilst using mixed ability features of the class to educate children in peer influence and other human qualities).
To me, the damage to the attitudes and emotional world views of our BRIGHTEST children is very clear. I see it because I teach them all in the same class so I can see the differences in attitudes. Also, unless I arrange/encourage a departure, my students tend to stay from P3 to P6... so I can see how their attitudes change over the months.
This attitudinal damage is a national tragedy.
这个看法和楼下后面的那篇有点接近
是说额外的提高内容会不会导致功课过于繁重。不过那个作者看起来像开补习班的,说得好像他的补习班不是额外的东西。
我儿子的学校GEP班的母语课是和非GEP班一起的,并没有额外的内容。数学和科学是比非GEP班难。但是,选拔的方法决定了这些学生的数学和科学本来就超前,而且吸收能力高。所以也还没有很大问题。科学老师走进教室,我儿子的同桌在计算要把他的体积压缩到多小,他就会变成一个黑洞,大家就看不见他了。他们的数学老师经常因为上课太多人不听课做些奇怪的事发大火。英文是难度最大的。虽然GEP班的学生一般都读很多书,但是他们的阅读理解,写作之类的要求都很高。4年级的时候普遍反映跟不上。
楼下那篇文章我最不同意的是关于Win。作者似乎认为Win是最重要的。GEP班的学生普遍争胜心都很强。我儿子4年级上到一半的时候,我们问他:你觉得GEP最好的地方是什么?他说是考试结果出来后可以公开比较成绩,因为以前学校不允许。我们一直和他说不要看重输赢,能保持对新事物的好奇心和学习的乐趣比较重要。
我认为GEP本身是个不错的课程。那些学习能力比较超前的,你不让他们学一些新东西,他们也是很闷。要说有什么可以改善的,我觉得是退出的机制。和所有的选拔机制一样,总会有一些“错误”的结果。GEP里最糟糕的可能就是小朋友本身学习能力没有那么高,但是开始得比较早。结果在选拔的时候看起来不错,但是后来就很吃力了。其实有不少家长问过退出的问题,MOE的回答是如果要退出,他们以前的学校都留了位置的。但是不建议在P4退出,因为应该给小朋友一些时间适应。也不建议在P6退出,因为就要PSLE了。现实中,我还没见到过退出的。也许是周围同学和家长的压力。MOE也许可以提供更加多一些心理协助。例如在第一篇文章中MOE要那个同学写保证书,还不如和家长讨论是不是GEP不适合这个同学。
感觉这么小就背负着
社会和师长的寄托和期望成长,这么小就要因为自己比较聪明而被其他小朋友孤立,对小孩子不公平。
智商超群是一个优势,比如不能靠脸吃饭还能靠聪明吃饭。。。比如同样的工作很快做完了,还可以搞点自己的兴趣爱好。比如有机会去自学很多感兴趣的但是学校不强调的内容。但是如果教育制度给带上一顶帽子成为负担,那还不如做一个普普通通的孩子呢。不是每个人都想成为future leader好吗,不是每个突出的孩子都希望成为政府部门培养的对象吧。不过现在制度可以选择不去GEP而去别的普通班,这个不错。SM系列有个考试是快捷班AP,考上了也可以不去,然后尽情享受预科时光,很多时间参加CCA,交朋友,旅游,做义工。
很多智商突出的孩子其实都成长为快乐幸福的普通人,成为了好妻子,好丈夫,好妈妈、好爸爸,我觉得这就够了耶。。社会的基石。。。其实我想说,找到一个好工作,远远没有找到一个好伴侣重要好吗。。。我很好奇GEP的课程除了理科和英文,是否也额外注重发展孩子的情商呢?再聪明的孩子还是不能当成大人来养,要遵循孩子身心发展的节奏。其实,当父母的,不希望自己孩子考多少分,或者赚多少钱,只希望孩子快乐健康成长成一个普通人,能够爱人和被人爱。如果孩子某方面有天赋,当父母的当然希望能够帮助孩子发挥一下,但前提是,孩子要真心这个天赋带来的是快乐而不是负担。
话说,推荐一个电影叫Gifted,美国队长演的。里面讲述了一些类似的道理。
我也查了这个人
以前做商务心理的后来转教孩子那种。呵呵。可能多少有点道理。但无处不渗透着实用主义与一刀切的意识。好坏分明貌似只在成绩上。毕竟以分数做评判还是最直接相对也是最公平的,反映梭子肚。
目前对GE的一点不满,大概还是在于对于老师怎么针对性的教。有些小孩,数科可以毫不费力,毕竟数科直观。而语言变成老大难。而其实语言也不是不能启发的。尤其是英文。而对于某些男孩子,提不起他兴趣,他干脆不想学,走神,小动作,说话。这时候老师的鼓励是多重要。引起孩子的好奇心又是多重要。
如果如那篇所说,孩子都不再尽力,都保留实力,也没什么可以怪孩子的,也不是因为他们互相攀比造成的。那只是孩子还没到某个火候,没有引起他们内心的火花。而且每个孩子还是有差别的,如何照顾整体,又有针对性,也许是老师的很大的挑战。