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我的月嫂和baby 单独一个房间，半夜喂奶送过来，喂完我给她送过去。medela freestyle 我一般开第五档
生大女儿的时候请月嫂，baby和月嫂睡
晚上我去喂奶。
我用freestyle直接上最高档的，开始疼后来麻木了。最高档效率绝对是最高的，每次挤奶10分钟就完事了。
我没办法接受宝宝和别人睡
所以月嫂和我、宝宝一个房间，月嫂单独睡一个小床。
我和母猫一样宝宝不能离开视线，老大也是很大了才肯让他去和外婆睡。
7档
试了几次以后我老婆觉得7档比较合适。但是我觉得这个看个人，看一下说明书，上面写的是调到你觉得还可以忍受，但是不会疼的档就可以了
刚开始的时候是3档
后来觉得没什么力道就变成5档。
现在开始在6-8档之间交换着。。。
不过，我已经pump一年了。不知道pump本身是不是也动力不足了。
随个人吧
生老大就让月嫂跟宝宝睡一间屋的。生老二房间不够用了，老公去陪老大睡，我跟月嫂和宝宝一间屋的。我都是泵出来奶给月嫂瓶喂的。老大我嫌麻烦，怕乳头混淆什么的，一直是母乳瓶喂。老二第2个月才开始尝试胸喂，照样学会吃，还吃的很带劲。我觉得请月嫂就是为了让自己在月子里休息好的，所以晚上让月嫂照顾宝宝我就能睡好一点。
Medela我用7－8档，低了不过瘾啊，呵呵。开始都会疼的，慢慢就好了。
母婴同室的好处
有人曾认为，婴儿刚刚娩出，那频繁的哭闹声会影响乳母休息，故采取母婴分离的办法，只是在喂奶时才让婴儿回到母亲身边。
其实，这样做对乳母、婴儿均不利。母子触摸、婴儿哭闹、母子对视、婴儿气味等，不仅可以增进母婴感情，而且还是一个个良好的刺激信号，可有效地刺激泌乳系统，解除下丘脑的抑制，导致泌乳素增高，乳汁分泌自然，状如涌泉。
母婴同室主要好处有以下四个：
一、提高母乳喂养率母婴同室，由母亲护理孩子，产妇心里会有一种说不出的喜悦，在护理过程中能增进母爱。产妇听到宝宝的哭声，看到宝宝的一举一动，乳汁的分泌会有所增加。据有关资料的报道，母婴同室的母乳喂养率明显高于非母婴同室者。
二、提高护理质量母婴同室，母亲自己护理新生儿，会使产妇更熟悉和了解自己的孩子。而每天医务人员对新生儿的护理、喂水、换尿布以及具体育儿常识的宣教可以共同进行，母亲可以边看、边听、边做，有利于提高护理质量，及时发现宝宝身体上的异常情况。
三、促进宝宝身体和智力的发育母婴同室，宝宝躺在母亲的身旁，能熟悉母亲的气味，听到母亲的声音并体验到母亲给予孩子一种特殊的抚慰。同时又能加深小宝宝与母亲的感情，使其产生一种安全感。另外，母亲的表情、动作和言语能锻炼小宝宝的视力和听力，促进宝宝智力的增长和体格的发育。
四、母婴同室的产妇较少患乳房肿胀、乳头破裂，而且母婴同室也有助于产妇子宫的复原。
why is rooming in beneficial
http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/pregnancy-childbirth/tenth-month-post-partum/bonding-your-newborn/rooming-vs-nursery-care
Rooming-in. This is the option we encourage most mothers and babies to enjoy. Full rooming-in allows you to exercise your mothering instincts when the hormones in your body are programmed for it. In our experience, and that of others who study newborns, mothers and babies who fully room-in enjoy the following benefits:
Rooming-in babies seem more content because they interact with only one caregiver—mother.
Full rooming-in changes the caregiving mindset of the attending personnel. They focus their attention and care on the mother, who is then more comfortable and able to focus on her baby.
Rooming-in newborns cry less and more readily organize their sleep-wake cycles. Babies in a large nursery are sometimes soothed by tape recordings of a human heartbeat or music. Rather than being soothed electronically, the baby who is rooming-in with mother is soothed by real and familiar sounds.
Mother has fewer breastfeeding problems. Her milk appears sooner, and baby seems more satisfied.
Rooming-in babies get less jaundiced, probably because they get more milk.
A rooming-in mother usually gets more rest. She experiences less separation anxiety, not wasting energy worrying about her newborn in the nursery, and in the first few days newborns sleep most of the time anyway. It's a myth that mothers of nursery-reared babies get more rest.
Rooming-in mothers, in our experience, have a lower incidence of postpartum depression.
Rooming-in is especially helpful for women who have difficulty jumping right into mothering. One day while making rounds I visited Jan, a new mother, only to find her sad. "What's wrong?" I inquired. She confided, "All those gushy feelings I'm supposed to have about my baby—well, I don't? I'm nervous, tense, and don't know what to do." I encouraged Jan, "Love at first sight doesn't happen to every couple, in courting or in parenting. For some mother-infant pairs it is a slow and gradual process. Don't worry your baby will help you, but you have to set the conditions that allow the mother-infant care system to click in." I went on to explain what these conditions were.
All babies are born with a group of special qualities called attachment- promoting behaviors—features and behaviors designed to alert the caregiver to the baby's presence and draw the caregiver, magnet like, toward the baby. These features are the roundness of baby's eyes, cheeks, and body; the softness of the skin; the relative bigness of baby's eyes; the penetrating gaze; the incredible newborn scent; and, perhaps, most important of all, baby's early language—the cries and precrying noises.
Here's how the early mother-infant communication system works. The opening sounds of the baby's cry {C} activate a mother's emotions. This is physical as well as psychological. Upon hearing her baby cry, a mother experiences an increased blood flow to her breasts, accompanied by the biological urge to pick up and nurse her baby. This is one of the strongest examples of how the biological signals of the baby trigger a biological response in the mother. There is no other signal in the world that sets off such intense responses in a mother as her baby's cry. At no other time in the child's life will language so forcefully stimulate the mother to act.
母乳供需平衡前不要使用泵奶器
http://blog.sina.com.cn/s/blog_680d86940100qmf5.html
http://www.goodbaby.com/xinshenger/htmls/103152.html
不少妈妈意识到不要过早给孩子使用人工奶嘴，那会干扰正常的母乳喂养。但是大家可能忽略了，其实过早的不正确的使用吸奶器，也非常干扰正常的母乳喂养，而且常常是使用奶瓶的另一个推手。
可能很多妈妈知道，宝宝的嘴巴是最好的“吸奶器”，没有任何一款吸奶器可以和宝宝的吸吮相比。知道这个事实，可能大家不知道这个原因。我简单讲一下，可以说吸奶器，仅仅是一个“吸”的机器，就是负压吸引（negative pressure, suction）。而婴儿的吸吮，不但他/她的嘴巴闭合形成一个负压吸引，而且面部口腔尤其是舌头的运动更是给妈妈的乳房一个积极的“挤压”力（Positive pressure，compression），使得乳汁更好的从乳房里输送出来。
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我有分离焦虑
谢谢大家的热心解答，学了好多东西哟：）
我会综合大家的回答，再结合自己的实际情况，争取给宝宝一个最舒适的环境的！
某些方面，我是个操心的人。
当初写birth plan的时候，我的midwife说母婴同室好，我就要求孩子生下来还在医院的时候就母婴同室，所以宝宝只有在打针、做检查的时候才离开我的房间。月子里也是我和宝宝一个房间，她睡婴儿床，我睡大床，月嫂睡地板上的床垫，老公睡客房。晚上宝宝醒来我就起来喂奶，喂完交给月嫂换尿布、拍嗝、哄睡。我承认这非常辛苦，但是好在我是自然生，不需要养伤口。
至于medele用哪一档，我从宝宝三个多月开始上班后就用free style挤奶，一直是用机器默认的档，即第4档，从来没有调高过。到现在已经用了整整1年了。诀窍不在于使用高档，而在于要刺激泌乳反射。说说我的经验吧。
free style前两分钟短而快的频率（也是模仿宝宝刚开始吸奶时的动作）会刺激泌乳反射，所以这两分钟结束后，泌乳反射会持续大概5-7分钟。这个期间，可以挤出奶柱，产量比较大。等这次泌乳反射结束后，挤出来的奶少了，我就会停止机器，休息2-3分钟。这几分钟里，可以按摩一下胸部，可以想想孩子的样子，可以喝点热水，这些都有利于刺激第二次泌乳反射。休息结束后，再次打开机器，经过前两分钟的刺激，会有第二次泌乳反射，这样再花个5分钟就挤得差不多了。一次挤奶总共花的时间不会超过20分钟。当然也有的时候不用中间休息就可以有第二次泌乳反射，这样就更快挤完了。刺激泌乳反射的方法包括：想象宝宝吃奶的样子（有的妈妈挤奶的时候还会看着宝宝的照片）、喝热水、用手捏一捏乳头等等。现在我一天只挤一次奶，大概12分钟就可以挤完了。
用4档的好处是不会过分拉扯乳头，也不会有疼痛。
对了，像niuma倡导的一样，尽量亲喂吧。产假里我只有在偶尔需要外出，赶不回来给宝宝喂奶的时候，才事先用挤奶器挤出来留给宝宝，其他时候都是亲喂，不管白天晚上。上班后，只有周一到周五白天在办公室才用吸奶器，晚上回家后，还有周末两天都是亲喂。
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关于月嫂
我头一个月是宝宝月嫂一个房睡, 喂奶时候抱过来,
后来奶多了, 就可以泵出来月嫂喂,这样自己睡觉的时间更自由些
没有用过这个泵奶器,无法回答了